The Road Not Taken (excerpt)
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both ...
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
By: Robert Frost (1874-1963)
While I am content with my life and have no regrets, I always wonder about the times when there was a major fork in the road of my life. All those "what-ifs" ...
What if the boy I had a huge crush on all through grade school had actually noticed me and we got married like my girlhood fantasies? Last I heard he's a smart, handsome doctor living in a swanky part of Green Bay, WI. Would I be happier? That swanky house is appealing, and a more comfortable lifestyle certainly, as well as a reputation in the community, etc. But does that equate to being happier?
What if I had stayed in Green Bay instead of following my deep desire to move to Minneapolis for college? I wouldn't have met my loving husband nor had my wonderful boys. Although I have not specifically used my B.A. in Theatre, I definitely had fun in the process of getting the degree (I'll spare you the debauchery of cast parties). Plus, it's nice to have some kind of degree on my resume.
On a more morbid note, what if I hadn't been wearing the seat belt in that car accident 20+ years ago? My face would have been through the windshield. As it was I had a bruised rib cage from where the seat belt held me fast - and thank goodness for that.
What if I wasn't laid off from Pillsbury 10 years ago? That was the best job I ever had - nice pay, great people, generous benefits and stimulating work. But the long-distance commute to downtown, high stress and the excess 40 lbs left me an unhappy camper at home. Nowadays money is a constant struggle, but I'm a happier person now with a low stress job 1.5 miles from home.
Some of the metaphysical stuff I've read makes the assertion that every decision, every minute of every day, has a separate timeline. Imagine infinite possibilities branching out from every moment of our lives, and each of those moments intersecting with other people whose lives we touch -- millions of parallel universes. It's just mind-boggling. Don't know about you, but I like to boggle my mind, push the envelope, and upset the apple cart of my belief systems. I'm not a risk-taker, but I enjoy skating the intellectual edge of new and innovative ideas or thought systems.
Can you imagine what your life would have been like if you had taken the "other path"?