Posted at 11:34 AM on October 24, 2007
by Julie Siple
Like Larissa said, we’re looking for stories about bullying. Thanks to everyone who’s sent one our way.
Course, most of what comes to mind is bad bullying. The manipulative co-worker, the cruel boss, the superpower. Bullies do bad things to good people.
But we’ve been wondering: As adults, is there a place for bullies? Is it possible they sometimes make the world go round? That more gets done, more efficiently, when someone starts... bullying?
Send us your stories, good and bad.
Bullies are essentially lazy people.
They manipulate in order to avoid doing the hard work of getting people to do what they want using commucnication and negotiation. Bullies are usually so self-centered they can't figure out how to get along in an honest and straight forward manner. And thats the root of it, their own insecurity.
The best way to deal with them is a combination of confrontation and suggestion of what their true motivations are. That doesn't mean you have to play their game, meanness doesn't look good on anyone.
Do you think they help us?
I wonder if bullies in some way make us better people. Think of George McFly winning the heart of Lorraine after knocking out Biff Tannen. It took a bully like Biff to make George finally stand up for himself.
And I'm sure countless other misfits achieved the things they did because they had something to prove to the bullies of the world. Bullies may suck, but are they a good motivator when it comes to forcing ourselves to be a stronger, tougher person . . . or do they just make us more timid and shy?